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But when you get into a relationship, it’s like a big no-no,” he says.“Even if they don’t say it out loud, you can sense the tension.But his experiences have soured him on the idea of ever entering an interracial relationship again.“I wouldn’t dare put another girl through that again,” he says.
According to statistics released by the European Network Against Racism (Enar) Ireland last August, people of “black-African” background were involved in the highest number of reported cases of racist assaults.
“People don’t see interracial relationships as ‘normal’, even if people wouldn’t directly go up to your face and attack you,” says Chess Law, a 19-year-old student from Ballymena whose parents are originally from Shanghai and Hong Kong.
“A lot of white people in particular don’t see it as normal.
While Ireland is becoming much more cosmopolitan – certainly in Dublin and its surrounds – I think [there are still] long-held beliefs around cultural difference” In Otukoyo’s mind, there is a distinction in attitudes to a black man having white friends and generally being a functioning member of Irish society, and a black man who enters a relationship with a white woman.
“Obviously we’re friends with Irish people, it’s fine.
Richard Bashir Otukoya has some bad relationship stories. They ripple with a hurt most of us don’t experience.